We don't share a lot of personal info on this blog. I don't really like to share personal info anytime except with people I am close to. I especially don't think the internet is a good place for all my personal stuff to be floating around, I think that could be dangerous. If we had kids and I was going to post about them, I would make my blog private, but that's just opinion. Ok, enough of that soap box and back to what this posting is really about.
Our immediate family and some of our close friends already know about this but I thought it was time to make it more public. Margo and I have some medical issues that make us not be able to conceive a child on our own. This is something we have been dealing with for a few years and no medical type treatment has been able to change it so far. There is still a very slight chance that we could get pregnant but it is a very small chance. So, we made the decision a couple months ago to officially pursue adoption. We are currently working on applications for adoption agencies.
The reason we decided to make this more public is because we would prefer to do an independent adoption (person to person) instead of going through an agency. Agency adoption costs average somewhere between $15,000-$25,000 and independent adoptions are usually 1/4 of that. But independent adoptions are hard to come by. You basically just have to be lucky and find out about someone who is wanting to give their baby for adoption but has not or does not want to use an agency. We feel like the more people we have out there who know we are wanting to adopt, the greater chance that someone might know of or hear about an independent adoption for us. Coming up with the money for an agency adoption will be a challenge. We can do it but it may take a little while and we are going to have to change our lifestyle a little. One thing we are trying to do to save more money towards adoption is selling our house. That way we can move somewhere that is cheaper even if that means not having a farm for a while. But an independent adoption would really be a lot better for us.
This whole process has been really difficult for us. There is a lot of things that we have been through so far but I will not share on here. It will all be worth it though if and when we are able to have a child (naturally or adopted). So, here is what you can do for us. If you hear about someone who is wanting to give their baby up for adoption, please let us know. We really would prefer to adopt a baby for our first adoption but we are open to considering anything situation at this point (especially if it is a large athletic black kid that is going to go pro in football).
We are not writing this to get sympathy from anyone, we just wanted people to know so they could help by letting us know if they hear about a possible adoption for us.
For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:10
We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh. 2 Corinthians 4:8-11
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
3 comments:
Ok. So not trying to give sympathy. Just guilt for all the complaining about throwing up. Which probably made you guys want to throw up. So maybe we're even?
I will keep my ear to the ground at the law office. And I got my Russian orphanage connections if you decide you want an older baby (I think they have to be at least 6 months but they end up usually being at least 2 by the time they're adopted but that could have all changed by now).
We're cheering for you!
m
We are praying for you and have actually done quite a bit of checking into adopting ourselves- both internationally and domestically. I am sure you have all of the info you need, but we have two friends who have given us a wealth of information because they each have adopted. Please let me know if you would like to ask either of them questions or talk with them. I have asked a million questions and they are happy to answer all of them! We are praying for you both and that God will bless you tremendously with a child very soon- whatever way he chooses. And that he will give you an abundant amount of peace and patience while you have to wait. I am so sorry that you have had to walk this road. I think about you both all of the time. And we will certainly let you know if we hear of anyone looking for a great home!
i just wanted to wish you the best in this path you've decided to take. i wish i could do more right now, really. i hate that it sounds like you've gone though tough times but i'm sure whatever it is has prepared you even more than you'd already planned for something so sweet to come into you lives. i'm sure you will both make wonderful parents. :)
all the best.
amanda
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